Monthly Archives: August 2012

First Day of School

The first day of school is tomorrow…that means one thing for me: I can get my routine back (haha).

Summer is nice, I like having my kids home so we can hang and do things.  It’s also nice to throw the routine out every once in a while and be spontaneous, but the routine has to come back for me eventually or I feel like I’m getting nothing done.

So, I’m anticipating spending the next week or so putting that routine back together and I want it to include:

  • Daily writing time
  • Daily workout time
  • Occasional errand time (groceries, dr. appointments, etc)
  • Cleaning/task time (boo…but it has to be done)

I function best with a plan, few distractions, little/no stress.  The routine and knowing what’s going to happen reduces my stress level, which is a must (me stressed is not a good thing, I avoid it at all costs).

I have a few goals to go along with getting my routine back in order like finishing the rough draft of manuscript #2 (by the end of September), finalizing my revisions on manuscript #1 by the end of the year, and getting a good workout routine back that’s challenging and effective.  My other plan is to clean up the master bedroom and make it look nicer…since in theory the room should be a special place and right now I can’t stand looking at it.

Sounds busy, yes, but I like having things to do.

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Spousal Support for the Writer

How much support should I expect from my spouse as I work on my writing?  While I’m working on my first rough draft I don’t need or want much, except to be left alone while writing.  I usually choose to work on my writing when my husband is at work so it doesn’t interfere with time we could be spending together.  However, during my revision phase it would be really nice for him to be more involved.  But he doesn’t seem interested and that’s frustrating for me.

He has yet to show interest in my project, even though he’s aware I’m working on it.  I decided to ask him to read the book outright instead of waiting for him to.  I printed him a copy and tried to hand it to him.  I said, “It would mean a lot to me if you would read this and give me your opinion.”  He wouldn’t take it or answer.  I raised my eyebrows at him and he said, “I’m thinking.”  I gave him a while to “think” but he never gave me an answer so I put the copy I made by my computer and eventually gave it to someone else (because I can easily print another copy if my husband suddenly shows interest).  When I tried to talk to him about it…well, let’s just say my bringing it up was a bit of a conversation killer.  I couldn’t get him to talk about it at all.

What I don’t understand is that I have many people who want to read my manuscript.  Too many, in fact, for me to accommodate.  But the one person whose opinion means the most to me isn’t interested in taking the time to read it (I’m not asking much, it’s not a difficult read and I’m not looking for him to do hard edits or anything like that, I just want him to read it and tell me what he thinks).  So, is it normal for a non-writing spouse to distance themselves from the other spouse’s writing projects?  I really don’t know, this is new to me.  I’m fine getting the support I need for my writing elsewhere, I just don’t get why I should have to.